I don’t know how to say this. But I guess everyone at some point of time has been at the lowest point of their lives and would have thought it easier to just give it all up and go to sleep permanently. Yes, I am talking of taking your life. An act that has always been around. I don’t need to give you a definition of suicide but it’s the basic act of killing yourself.
Like everyone, I have had my share of moments where I have contemplated it. It was ages ago and I was a teenager and that is the scariest part. That I could have missed out on this life, my son, my husband if I had given up then. I am not sure what the reason was but it may have been loneliness or academics that may have pushed me to think of such a drastic step. As a teenager we are looking for attention, from friends from working parents, from perfect strangers. A random act of kindness shown to us would definitely brighten a day. My teenage life wasn’t dull but it had its share of heartaches and moments of triumphs. But nonetheless, I had at one point of time decided to give it all up. What a shame it would have been.
Today teenagers have it tougher. Thanks to social media, bullying has taken a whole new meaning. The smallest of achievements are propagated, making others feel inferior. Relationships are virtual, emotions take a backseat. It’s all about showcasing a perfect life even though the opposite may be true in reality. I don’t have the statistics about teenage suicides, but I do know that most teens today must have thought about it at some point of time. There are cases of suicides across all ages. Teenagers need more attention than the rest of us. It is this lot that requires the most help, because they haven’t even seen the harshness of what we call a life. The restraints are more during our teens, so we don’t know how to express ourselves, talk to our loved ones without the fear of being judged.
Those suffering from depression tend to look at the world through dark glasses. They are the more mature ones. One after another things happen to them which make their situation worse. But I genuinely believe now that if we surround ourselves with negativity, that is what we are going to get. If we are constantly whining about the wrongs in our life, instead of counting our blessings we don’t realize that things could be far worse. Then we tend to slip more into the hole of depression day by day. For every wrong in your life, there is a good waiting to be discovered. You just are not looking in the right places. For example, you got a bad job but your parents are healthy thanks to the money it provides, you got bad health but you got a job to provide for you and help you to improve your health. You didn’t have a happy married life but you got to experience love. You miss your kids but they are healthy and been taken care of. You heart was broken and she left you, but you have a family who loved you even before her. You lost your job but you’re still breathing, you got hands and legs that work you can still make it. Don’t give it up. Search for what’s important.
By surrounding yourself with people who matter, not with people who are constantly bringing you down you’re making a use of this life. Read novels, get lost in the characters, and let your imagination run. But don’t let your mind be idle. If you don’t like reading, do the stuff you like constantly, make it your passion. Volunteer at orphanages – believe me children have a way to brighten your mood. Think about this – if you want to give up today, think of the stigma (which I think is overrated) and the constant doubt that your loved ones will face. Whether they had done enough for you will haunt them for the rest of their life. Every life has a purpose however small. Fulfill it don’t waste it.
Just imagine, if I had taken drastic steps as a teenager I would have lost out on my nephews and nieces, travelling the world, helping my mom in whatever way I could in the end, my husband and my son who wouldn’t have existed if I wasn’t around. Now that would surely be a big loss to the world.
January 18, 2014